(this is the only pic I have of her at the moment)
This one is bittersweet. Today is my Mother-In-Law's birthday. Today she turns 71. Today, despite the fact that I went into shock at 1:30 this morning and threw up at church (after bearing my testimony I might add), I made her dinner.
Why do I do that to myself you ask? Because she's my husbands mother. And I suppose that I'll always have to be grateful to her for that. Without her, Jordan wouldn't be here.
For the close to 10 years that I've been married, she has not made it very easy. She's made my cry. She's made me mad. She's made me very, VERY upset. But I have to keep telling myself that she's family and I need to keep the peace to please my husband. He gets put in awkward situations all the time, and it really isn't fair to him. So I try (keyword here is try) to keep things peaceful-although I don't always succeed.
And so, with keeping with the spirit of listing something that I'm grateful for everyday (more on this later), here it is....
I am grateful for her (I know, did you EVER really think you'd hear me say that?)! And I am grateful for her because she has made me realize what's really important in my life. And she's made my stick-up for what's important too. Sometimes I feel like I am the only one that sticks up to her too. But thats ok with me. That's ok with me because at least someone is doing it.
5 comments:
Hmmm... That's interesting. I guess I got really lucky in this area. It's got to be hard to have tension with your husbands mother... Such a delicate situation. Good for you trying to be positive. I'm sure Jordan appreciates it more than you know.
Hats off to you for trying to always ease the contention. I cannot believe you did that all yesterday being so sick. Honey, stay in bed and get some rest! -Suzanne
I can relate to you! I have had many times with my MIL that it had made things really uncomfortable! The last few years have gotten a bit better. But our first few years of marriage I hated to go over to their house! Kinda sad.
You know.. this is one of the bravest and best posts you have done. I'm happy for you!!!
You know we are twinners in this department.. and it's so nice to know people who are going through the same things you are.. so you don't feel so alone. Without you and Monica to call and vent to.. I would go insane!!
The best advice came from General Conference-- Elder Eyring's talk.. We need to Honor our Father's and Mothers.. and even though it may KILL me to do that.. at least I can answer the to the Lord that I Tried! :)
Love ya..
I really lucked out in the in-law department. They have always been really great to me, and so I can imagine all the bumps in the road I would have if I didn't get along with them. I truly believe that we were put on this earth to learn to get along with our families. It's not always easy, but so worth it in the end!
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